Tranquility.Love.Mercy

Original article from <here>

"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Qur'an 30:21)

In the Qur'an, the marriage relationship is described as one with "tranquility," "love" and "mercy." Elsewhere in the Qur'an, husband and wife are described as "garments" for each other (2:187). Garments offer protection, comfort, modesty, and warmth. Above all, the Qur'an describes that the best garment is the "garment of God-consciousness" (7:26).

Muslims view marriage as the foundation of society and family life. In a practical aspect, Islamic marriage is thus structured through legally-enforceable rights and duties of both parties. In an atmosphere of love and respect, these rights and duties provide a framework for the balance of family life and the fulfillment of both partners.

General Rights

• To be treated with honor, kindness, and patience.
• To enjoy intimate relations with each other.
• To have children, by God's will.
• To keep one's legal and personal identity after marriage, retaining one's own family name, inheritance rights, property, mahr, etc.

General Duties

• To be faithful to the marriage bond.
• To strive to be attractive to one's spouse.
• To assist and support one another, and to resolve disputes amicably.
• The husband has the duty to provide all physical maintenance of the family (housing, clothing, food, medical care, etc.).

Marriage is all about SEX? C'mom OWC!

this few months, Obedient Women Club (OWC) aka Kelab Isteri Taat is becoming popular with their controversial issues.. This video will show you how stupid n innocent they are.. c'mon DOCTOR AZALINA, you mind is too narrow to discuss about this thing, pls find an ulama! Bravo to Marina Mahathir!

9 Marriage Rules You Should Break

Article from Shine Yahoo!

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The two of you should do everything together; work out every disagreement (without actually fighting); spend every night in the same bed; and never, ever be bored. Say what?! These and other so-called “rules” for marriage need some serious debunking. And it’s not just because rules your mother may have passed on are outdated; some may be downright damaging. In fact, “breaking some marriage ‘rules’ may be the best thing you can do for your relationship,” says Barbara Bartlein, RN, MSW, psychotherapist and author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? Here are 10 rules you can break with confidence.

1. Never go to bed angry.
Where did this one come from? Turns out, it may go as far back as the Bible, which advises not letting the sun go down on your anger. But trying to work through a problem when you’re tired and stressed won’t get you anywhere, says Elizabeth Lombardo, PhD, psychologist and author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. “Agree to disagree for now, and to revisit the issue when you’re rested.”

2. Always be 100% honest.
In marriage, no-holds-barred honesty is not always the best policy. For example, “you don’t need to share details of past relationships,” says Bartlein. “That invites comparisons, and when you compare, someone comes up short.” The bottom line: You need to be polite and caring when it comes to your partner’s feelings.

3. Never vacation without each other.
The received wisdom here is that if you have time off from your jobs and lives, you should naturally prefer to spend it together. One problem with this rule is that you and your spouse may not have the same definition of a great getaway (you like to ski, he’s a beach bum). The other danger, says Dr. Lombardo, is the belief “that you have to be each other’s everything, and that’s just not realistic.” Sometimes, you need a spa weekend, and he may want to go camping (or vice versa). Just be sure that you don’t always take off without each other.

4. If you fight, you’re headed for divorce.
Actually, says Bartlein, research shows that couples who never fight—assuming that means they’re holding back to avoid conflict—are more likely to split. You need to find ways to fight healthily and productively (without blaming, name-calling and the like), but that said, being committed to respectfully airing out conflicts is a far better rule than “keep your mouth shut.”

5. Once you have children, they come first.
“So often, I see couples who have put their relationship on hold in order to be good parents,” says Dr. Lombardo. But those couples, she says, have it exactly backward. Making your relationship top priority is better not just for you, but for your children, who need to see you in charge and who feel safer and more secure with parents who have a loving relationship. “Create couple-only time during which you do not discuss bills or children, where you do fun activities and enjoy each other's company.” The kids’ll be all right.

6. You should never sleep in separate beds.
Um, snore much? It’s a myth that couples always sleep better and more cozily together than apart. One partner may be a toss-and-turner, or one may hit the hay early while the other keeps a reading light burning till the wee hours. So if one of you occasionally decamps to the guest room, don’t sweat it. “Getting a good night’s sleep is crucial to the health of your mind, body and marriage,” says Dr. Lombardo. Just be sure a separate-bed habit isn’t about avoiding intimacy.

7. Partners should sync up their hobbies.

Though spending every free moment you have training for a marathon while your spouse works on his classic car isn’t good for your marriage, neither is subscribing to the notion you should quit doing what you love just because your husband doesn’t love the same things. Giving up your passions is akin to forgoing your independence, and “without independence in a marriage people feel trapped,” says Bartlein. Pursue your separate interests and find activities you both enjoy.

8. If there’s no spark, you’re doomed.
Many married couples understand intellectually that they won’t always experience that I’ve-been-drugged-by-love feeling in a long-term relationship. “But many still believe that when the spark dies out, it means they’re in the wrong relationship, and seek something new,” says Bartlein. Long-term relationships survive on commitment and trust, out of which grows love. The mistake here is to believe that you can live forever on fireworks, or even just love, alone.

9. Boring is bad.
The problem with this so-called rule, says Bartlein, is when couples confuse a calm, predictable union with a bad one. A drama-filled relationship may feel exciting, but in the long run it’s not likely to be healthy. Isn’t it better, she says, to “boringly” know where your spouse is every night than to be “excited” by constant ups and downs? “Better to have a safe, relaxed, ‘boring’ life together in the everyday. You can always inject excitement with vacations and activities.”

The Science of a Happy Marriage

For me it is an interesting article to share with all of u.. my readers esp. This article i read from NYTimes blog.. written by Tara Parker-Pope.. just read it and u'll want to read more.. almost of the facts are true... I enjoy reading this article, so i do hope u will too!

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Why do some men and women cheat on their partners while others resist the temptation?
To find the answer, a growing body of research is focusing on the science of commitment. Scientists are studying everything from the biological factors that seem to influence marital stability to a person’s psychological response after flirting with a stranger.
Their findings suggest that while some people may be naturally more resistant to temptation, men and women can also train themselves to protect their relationships and raise their feelings of commitment.
Recent studies have raised questions about whether genetic factors may influence commitment and marital stability. Hasse Walum, a biologist at the Karolinska Institute in Sweden, studied 552 sets of twins to learn more about a gene related to the body’s regulation of the brain chemical vasopressin, a bonding hormone.
Over all, men who carried a variation in the gene were less likely to be married, and those who had wed were more likely to have had serious marital problems and unhappy wives. Among men who carried two copies of the gene variant, about a third had experienced a serious relationship crisis in the past year, double the number seen in the men who did not carry the variant.

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Walimatul Urus

My Big Day

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Kepada rakan2 yang mengenali saya,
i would love to invite u guys to my weeding on..
Date: 29th November 2009
Venue: Dewan Japerun Sungai Udang, 76300 Melaka
Time: 12.00pm - 4.00pm

location:

i hope u guys boleh dtg untuk memeriahkan majlis tersebut
-Shakira@Kiera-

Bengang - KLINIK KESIHATAN BANGI - BIROKRASI KERAJAAN

Kalau budak akim af7 tu ade lagu bengang, i plak ade masalah BENGANG hari ini!!!! geram tahap maksima sampai tak terkata.. iskkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

ni nak cite about Kerajaan Birokrasi!!!! Hamik ko.. Ade i kisah kalau i keje gov sekalipun? So, kalau i keje gov sepanjang mase je lah i kena puji gov ni? Xcuz me, im not dat type of person, kalo i rasa tak puas hati i akan luahkan sume, bia sedar diri skit mereka2 yg berbirokrasi!!!!

ok, perjalanan i start jam 12.30pm, i asked my boss permission utk klua awal (eventou bhgn i ade wat jamuan raya yg nampak menyelerakan wpun tanpa Nasi Tomata itu!).. klua awal pun sebab i nak pi wat HIV test for my kebenaran bernikah.. before pegi pun smlm B dah tanye org kat sana bila and ape prosedur die, org tu slumber ckp dtg jer kat klinik jam 1.45 kaunter bg borang then jam 2pm test mula.. so, 12.30pm kami ke Bndr Baru Bangi, carik2 klinik tu sampai jupe, then g lunch... by 1pm i dah ade kat Klinik Kesihatan Bandar Baru Bangi (aka KK Bangi), time tu dah nampak 3,4 couple (bakal pengantin) menunggu kaunter buka... So, sambil2 tunggu i bace Notis Pemberitahuan kat luar KK tu, katanye "Kaunter buka awal 15minit dan tutup 30minit lebih awal dari waktu operasi".. so mmg betul lah operator yg cakap kat B smlm yg doang bg borang kat kaunter jam 1.45pm.. so, kami berdiri beratur kat depan pintu masuk nak ke klinik ni, u all bayangkan dr jam 1pm ok!!! berdiri punyer berdiri sampailah jam 1.45pm tak buka juga, 1.50pm tak buka juga, 1.55pm baru doang buka pintu.. so, i ngan B bergegas ke Kaunter, Pompuan kat kaunter tu ckp, "tuan/puan, sila duduk dulu cuz borang akan diedarkan pada jam 2pm", ok fine, dah lah buka lmbt, pastu suh duk lagi tu baru bg borang"! dan2 i nak duk, time nak amik giliran, soang nurse tua plak kua informed: Tuan, Puan maaf yer, HIV test hanya terhad kepada pasangan yang akan bernikah di Bangi sahaja sebab test kit hanya ade 20!". Tak ke ko marah mcm tu kan??? Pastu dan2 i tgk 3,4 couple jek yg pi amik no.giliran, so hanye bbrp org je org bangi kan???!!! punyelah i geram sampai i gi tanye kat kaunter tu, mana surat arahan or pekeliling mana u pakai ckp test tu hanya utk org bangi jerk??? becuz i tgk dlm borang jais ke jaim ke informed boleh buat di mana2 klinik kesihatan kerajaan yg berdaftar dgn jabatan agama.. so wuts the klinik problems sampai nak tolak my test kan? pastu nurse tu cakap die ikut arahan pegawai yg buat test jerk.. orite, tunjukkan die siapa yg buat test cuz i nak explanation!!! dah ler i berdiri dr jam 1pm, punyelah lame baru ko buka kaunter then berdolak dalih lg, so i pegi lab 'kununnye pegawai' tu, die takde!!! dah pukul 2pm takde??? weh, td kat depan klinik koang nyer janji pd patients UJIAN HIV TEST BERMULA JAM 2pm, TP jam 2pm lah koang sibuk nak pegi makan???? WTF lah ko!!! kan dah geram!!! dah kecoh2, ramai yg tak puas hati, i pun mengambil langkah bijak call my fren kat MoH... ko ingat aku takde kawan???!!! i informed my fren d situation, she also shocked, die suruh i minta pekeliling or surat arahan dr MoH or Jais yg menyatakan HIV TEST di KK Bangi hanya utk pasangan yg bernikah di BANGI!!!! i minta pd doang, tp doang suh gak tanye pegawai doang.. i tunggu2, then pembantu MA tu panggil i informed MA tu dah masuk... baru masuk ko dlm kul 2.15pm????!!!! dah le keje kat klinik ko sesuka hati nak pegi masuk yerk???? bodoh!!!! i masuk bilik tu, i minta die explain, then die ckp mcmni: Saya bukan tak nak terima tp JAIS arahkan saya mengambil hanya org BANGI sahaja sebab kit yg diSPONSOR oleh JAIS terhad utk 20 orang setiap hari.. ok, fine... then i minta surat kebenaran JAIS tuh and pada siapa die answerable keje die, si MA BODOH ni cakap die ikut cakap JAIS!!! weh, sape bayar gaji ko weh???? So, i called my fren and let her to talk v this MA BODOH.. punyelah kawan i suh die explain why die taknak amik patient dr lua bangi, die bg jawapan yg sama, katanye klinik putrajaya dan kajang pun tak amik patient dr luar kawasan.. katanye lagi die cuma ikut arahan JAIS.. my fren minta die kemukakan surat kebenaran dr KP or KSU kesihatan or any pekeliling tp die tak dpt nak bagi, die cuma tahu berdolak dalih sahaja.. sampai satu tahap boss my fren ckp mmg takde pun MoH kluarkan arahan mcm tuh, sampai boss die suh check dgn bahagian kawalan penyakit MoH.. budak MA tu dah buat muka cuak, sampai i dah fed up, time tu dah jam 2.20pm, i ade meeting jam 2.30pm and 3.30pm, so i need to rush... budak MA BODOH tu mcm dah takut, so die cam stop kan perbualan telefon tu, sambil2 tu i perli, lain kali tampal annoucement kat lua klinik informed "KLINIK INI HANYA MENJALANKAN UJIAN HIV UTK PASANGAN DARI BANGI SAHAJA".. mmg lah die tak brani nak wat kan, cuz BUKAN ARAHAN DR MOH!!!! pastu sempat lg pembantu kpd MA BODOH tu cakap: Org keje goverment ni tak boleh kurang ajar!!! EXCUSE ME, aku bukan kurang ajar ok, i cume nak explanation knp ade peraturan mcm tu and siapa yg kluakan!!!! i cakap baik2 ok.. i dah ade name MA BODOH tu, MA KLINIK KESIHATAN BANGI YANG BERNAMA FAIZ.. sila sebut Fa-Iz... F A I Z..
crite bersambung di luar klinik, i nampak ramai lagi muka couple yg tak puas hati, siap ade soang tu cakap: takkan aku kena balik terengganu semata2 nak wat test HIV? kesian kan??? adakah ini BIROKRASI PALING TERLAMPAU??? BIROKRASI syok sendiri yg menyakitkan hati.. so, i ajak B balik, eventou B org Kajang pun die tak benarkan.. so, i called KK Kajang dan KK Putrajaya tanye pasal this things, pastu u know wut org kat KK dua2 tu cakap: Untuk pengetahuan Cik, kami tak pernah tak terima org dari luar kawasan, kami tak pernah halang sesiapa dr negeri mana pun nak wat test HIV utk pasangan bakal pengantin, kami tak pernah dengar arahan mcmtu dr JAIS!!!!! Ok, i semakin sakit hati!!!! Semakin makin membara api ni!!!! so, i pun membuat follow up dgn JAIS plak, kate pegawai yg menjawab telepon tuh, JAIS tak pernah klua kan arahan mcmtu kepada mana2 klinik2 kesihatan!!!!! WUT A STUPID MA NAMED FAIZ!!!!! dah le stupid, penipu plak tuh!!! ape dah dpt ape2 habuan ker???? kwang kwang kwang... sejahat2 manusia, i paling tak suke org yg GUNA KUASA DAN PENIPU!!!!! jgn ingat i takkan wat ape2 pada D STUPID MA NAMED FAIZ TUH.. my fren suggested that i write a letter of complain to KP kesihatan, ape ingat i tak brani??? confirm i buat!!! hamik ko STUPID MA NAMED FAIZ!!!! org lain just ckp2 kecoh2 je kat klinik tu TP tindakan i akan amik dgn menulis surat or email to KP KESIHATAN!

bangang tak koang dengar???
i dah puas bengang berapi2 masuk meeting lewat..
sibbek boss faham...

Wedding Cake

Choosing a wedding cake is one aspect of wedding planning that can be both fun and difficult at the same time (with so many options to choose from these days!) Fortunately, like choosing a wedding dress, the right cake often has a way of presenting itself and most couples just "know" when they've found the right one. Begin by looking at glossy pictures of wedding cakes in bridal magazines and start compiling a small collection of potential pictures. Next, you'll want to begin to look at wedding cake vendors in your area - if they have a web site for you to view some of their past creations that'll be a huge help in predetermining whether they share your vision of the perfect cake.

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A few wedding cake "traditions" and tips to keep in mind as the wedding day approaches:
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1. The top 'tier' of the wedding cake is by tradition saved for the couple to freeze and enjoy on their 1st anniversary. Ask your catering manager or wedding coordinator to save and package this up for you after the reception.
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2. If you've purchased a cake topper, ask your coordinator to retrieve it for you to save.

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3. Purchasing a special cake-cutting knife before the wedding is a great idea - not only will it look nicer, you'll insure that you do have one there rather than relying on the caterer to bring one. You can drop it off with your coordinator before the wedding begins.
~article originally from: littleweddingguide~
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i punye kek pun tak tempah2 lg, tak tau nak tempah kat sape eventou dah ade shortlist.. erm, i prefer yg soft color, kalau boleh putih lah.. tgk lah mcmne...

so, rite now kita layankan pics kek2 yg chantek:

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tapi i nak yg mcmni boleh?;

very d choco and sweety one..

Dzul Declassique

koang penah dengar ke idak butik

dzuldeclassique

alah, yg duk wat baju2 melayu, busana pengantin kat tengah2 pekan kajang tuh???

hah, ingat dah???

i kalo bab die jahit melayu, i tabik spring! mmg chantek and seswai dgn tren terkini....

tp bab dorang jahit baju kurung ke busana pengantin ker i tak leh nak comment cuz tak pernah tempah BUT tgk2 kat kedai die cam chantek gak die jahit... :)

ya Allah, meleret plak i ni, sebenarnye nak cite i teman B gi amik tempahan baju die utk tuuutttt and die nak beli baju raya last weekend..

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di tengah2 koleksi

jns2 kain utk ditempah pun ader (khas utk baju melayu)
busana pengantin lelaki..
yg kat dlm cermin tuh, koleksi baju yg org tempah, koang tgk lah sampai tak muat dah almari tuh...

ni lah die Abg Dzul kiter...

busy melayan customer

last2 B hanya amik baju yang ditempah, and tak dan nak beli baju raya cuz ramai org, adelah die try satu tp senteng, almaklumlah B i ni tinggi melampai... nanti2 lah tu die beli.. koang tau sebab ape nak kena kua cepat dr dzul tuh? kan kitoang nk pi crazy mazzy shopping! hehehehehehehe..

so koang nak tempah baju pengantin ke baju kurung ke esp baju melayu ke, sila berkunjung ke DzulDeclassique!

Dilema Memilih...

Saya skrg dlm dilemma...

Sama ada, di sini

Arma

atau, di sini

Zery

atau di sini

rinz

atau di sini

citra

atau di sini

Baju pengantin

Tips ini dr sini<--

Tugas praperkahwinan yang tidak sabar dinantikan oleh bakal pengantin perempuan ialah memilih baju kahwin. Barangkali sesetengah telah membayang baju kahwin yang akan mereka gayakan sebaik sahaja si buah hati melamar. Cuma kemungkinan dek kerana dilambung ghairah, anda tidak mempertimbangkan samada khayalan itu praktikal atau tidak?

Jika anda tidak tahu di mana hendak bermula, dapatkan timbunan ilham daripada panduan yang kami kumpulkan sebagai panduan bagi memastikan saat bahagia dilalui dengan simbahan keseronokan, penuh riang dan gembira.

Kumpulkan majalah perkahwinan yang menyorot isu perkahwinan untuk menimbulkan ilham dan mencari aliran potongan semasa yang sesuai serta jangan lupa senaraikan harga-harganya.

Kini banyak majalah mengeluarkan senarai pakej perkahwinan dari segi pakaian, dandanan dan hotel. Jangan hanya melakukan urusan melaui telefon dan membuat keputusan sebelum temu janji. Dicadangkan anda luangkan masa beberapa hari berjalan-jalan di pusat membeli belah, masuk kedai-kedai yang berkaitan, melihat-lihat dan bertanya lebih lanjut.

Jangan lupa mengacukan sebanyak mungkin potongan yang ada. Kebanyakan baju kahwin tidak nampak cantik di gantungan tetapi apabila dipakai cantik. Ketika mengacu jangan lupa lihat sisi dan belakang.

Melalui cara di atas anda dapat mengagak anggaran peruntukan yang anda mampu. Pastikan anda buat anggaran setepat mungkin dan tentukan anda mengikut anggaran yang ditentukan.

Berikan waktu yang panjang sebelum memutuskan potongan baju kahwin. Adalah bijak bermula dengan potongan asas, sama ada anda suka kurung Johor, kebaya longgar atau kurung moden. Dan sekiranya anda bercadang memilih gaun, anda suka potongan tradisional, lurus, keruk ‘empire’ atau keruk ‘princess’?

Kemudian tanyakan diri sama ada mahukan tathan labuci, manik atau sulaman?

Justeru itu, jangan tempah di saat-saat akhir. Kebanyakan kedai mengharapkan tempahan dilakukan tiga empat bulan sebelum hari perkahwinan.

Fikirkan samada anda mahu perkahwinan anda bertema. Misalnya konsep, warna, kain & gaya. Langkah ini secara tidak langsung akan memudahkan anda membuat pilihan pakaian.

Apapun pilihan anda, pastikan ianya praktikal.

Apabila anda menempah, anda ada dua pilihan. Sama ada menggunakan kain sendiri atau memilih kain di butik tempat menempah, kecuali anda menempah di kedai tukang jahit biasa.

Kain baju kahwin tidak murah. Samada anda memilih renda Peranchis atau Swiss, sutera Itali atau China, organza atau organdy, tanyakan pada tukang jahit atau pereka anda berapa meter yang diperlukan untuk membuat baju anda.

Jika peruntukan terhad, pertimbangkan menyewa baju kahwin. Jika tidak beli baju kahwin siap. Tetapi haruslah diingatkan bahawa baju kahwin siap tidaklah semurah mana dan kadang-kala tidaklah secantik mana.

Sesetengah butik ada membuat baju yang dikhususkan untuk promosi. Baju ini digunakan untuk kegunaan peragaan dan penggambaran. Cuba tawar harganya.

Dalam kegawatan ekonomi, banyak butik menawarkan pakej menarik . Dapatkan tawaran yang bagus.

Jika anda tidak bercadang menyimpan baju kahwin anda (tak kira sama ada gaun, kurung atau kebaya) cuba tanya pereka atau butik anda sama ada mereka boleh tolong jualkannya sebagai pakaian terpakai selepas anda pakai. Jika tidak, anda boleh jualkan kepada kedai-kedai terpakai. Secara ini, ia boleh membantu kewangan anda. Tetapi pastikan baju anda dalam keadaan baik.

Tonjolkan segala kelebihan anda, maksudnya paras rupa seperti ketinggian, pinggang ramping dan buah dad cantik. Pengantin tinggi tampak lampai dengan potongan langsing manakala pengantin yang rendah sepatutnya elakkan gaun kembang dan train, pilih perincian halus dan potongan lurus.

Kalau anda memakai gaun, ketahuilah gaun bentuk V di pinggang membias tinggi. Sembunyikan lengan yang besar dengan berlengan panjang. Elakkan baju bercengkek bagi yang berpinggang tinggi.

Sentiasa bawa seseorang (dua paling bagus) apabila anda pergi menempah dan mengacu baju kahwin. Dengan ditemani mereka, anda boleh mendengar komen dan mendengar pandangan mereka tatkala meyedang baju.

Minta kerjasama pereka untuk mencuba bersama layah (veil) supaya anda dapat gambaran rupa keseluruhan baju kahwin anda. Umpamanya layah yang pendek mungkin boleh mengubah baju biasa kepada sesuatu yang biasa kepada sesuatu yang istimewa manakal layah labuh kemungkinan tidak sesuai.

Pilih pakaian pengiring anda sepadan dengan perincian atau baju kahwin anda. Sekiranya anda mempunyai konsep atau tema, pastikan ianya selaras dengan pengiring anda.

Fikirkan bentuk kasut. Baik bertumit tinggi atau rendah, ia akan memberi kesan berlainan kepada keseluruhan penampilan baju kahwin anda. Begitu juga warna dan jenis buatannya.

Perlengkapkan gaya dengan perhiasan kemas. Subang, rantai, keronsang, butang baju kurung, gelang tangan dan gelang kaki boleh menaikkan seri penampilan. Bagaimanapuun ia akan menambah perbelanjaan. Sekiranya anda tidak mampu membeli, pertimbangkan meminjam daripada adik-beradik, saudara-mara ataupun teman rapat. Atau sewa daripada mak andam atau butik anda.

Selepas selesai majlis perkahwinan, pastikan baju dihantar untuk cucian kering dan simpan ia dengan baik dalam kotak atau gantungkan ia di dalam sarung baju.

TQ epilogue

wedding photographer all done...
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next... find a tailor for my wedding dress...
still a lot more to do...

Promosi Kerja Kahwin '09

Last Saturday i gi Promosi Kerja Kahwin 09 kat Kompleks Kraf KL....

tak rugi i gi cuz mcm2 i tau and pelajari, di samping dpt survey senarai mak2 andam, photographer, designer etc etc... tp nyesal tak amik pic byk2... rugi plak....

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4-13 July 09

10.00am - 8.00pm

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brosur2 dan promosi yang dikutip2...
lunch kat cafe Kompleks Kraf tu, yg bestnyer kami makan kat kedai mak cik fave i time kat kolej UKM Kg Baru dulu, masih menyengat dan shedap masakan die!
B tak hbs2 ngan sorong goreng tepng die!
Me? Ikan keli masak lemak cili padi, tempe goreng sambal and bayam!
sgt sedappp!!! Nasi 1/2 ok! :)

i ended up dpt list of designer utk baju pengantin and pakej2 pelamin & mak andam yg best! sorry to say BUT i prefer 'lelaki' jadi mak andam i! huhuhu

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Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.

- Tom Mullen

7 things!

You want a rewarding and fulfilling marriage? You can have one, but you need a dose of reality first. Here are things you need to say “I do” to before walking down the aisle…

1. Do you have a sense of humor?
A sense of humor is vital, and the first person you have to laugh at is yourself. Consider this- men and women have to hook up on some level to propagate the species, proving God has a sense of humor. He obviously assumed we would too.

2. Do you know you’ll have to work? Hard?
I solicited the opinion of dozens of women for this topic, and the feedback was unanimous. You have to be willing to work. Some women think if you’re a perfect match, your marriage shouldn’t be work. Those people are called divorcees. It’s true your marriage shouldn’t be work every hour of every day, but there will be days when your marriage will require extra energy (a term I prefer over “work”). Like Grandpa used to say, anything worth having is worth working for. Welcome to Marriage 101.

3. Do you realize marriage is not 50/50?
Gotcha! You figure you’ll give half, he’ll give half and you’ll meet somewhere in the middle. You poor, poor dear. The reality is, there will be some days you’ll give 90% and you may or may not get 10% back. There may be weeks or months that pass with the scales out of whack. Remember- you committed your whole life to him, and in your lifetime the scales will shift back in your favor. Interestingly, the scales will align faster if you abandon the scorecard and self-pity.

4. Do you have a general acceptance of your significant other’s shortcomings?
Does he leave the toilet seat up? Get over it. Are his table manners a fright? Look the other way. Is he a tight-wad? You better be at one with strict budgets. Try seeing your new hubby’s annoying habits as endearing. In addition to his positive traits, his quirks make him who he is. Figure out a way to truly accept the whole package- the good, the bad and the ugly.

5. Do you have expectations of your marriage or soon-to-be-spouse?
If you said “I do” to this one, start goggling divorce attorneys now. Fundamental expectations like being treated well, being faithful, or being honest are covered by your wedding vows. If you want a long lasting marriage, let go of any romance novel or Lifetime movie expectations you have. The men in Hollywood are actors. Real men, generally speaking, are not geared for romance and eloquent, loving speeches. With this attitude, you’ll better enjoy the thoughtful little things your new husband does. Lowered expectations and happily ever after go hand in hand.

6. Do you know comparisons are a death sentence for marriages?
Like fingerprints, marriages are unique and specific to the two individuals involved and the one-of-a-kind bond they create. Instead of scowling at your husband when your friend brags about the romantic vacation her husband took her on, just smile. Maybe your friend left out how her husband ogled other women on the beach or said something at dinner that made her cry. You never know what goes on behind closed doors- be secure in what you and your husband share and the knowledge that it works for you.

7. Do you know your fiancé is bilingual?
Read a couple books about how men communicate or have a sit-down with your aunts and grandma. We think we grasp the Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus concept, but we don’t. He may not say “I love you” 14 times a day, but he might fill your car when it’s out of gas, maybe he’ll cover you with a blanket when you’re cold, he may bring you a glass of wine when you’re in the tub, or he might listen to stories about the kids when he just wants to crawl in a hole and go to sleep. You have to learn to read, understand and appreciate man-speak.

In order for a marriage to be successful, reality can’t be sugar-coated. Long term commitments are not for the faint of heart. A lasting union takes a great deal of love, patience, true grit and guts. The benefits are countless. I’ll leave you to discover those on your own.

originally copied from lovingyou

persiapan?

ramai kawan2 dah tanye i ape persiapan yg i dah wat for my wedding, and my answer is not so much! huhuhu.. ye betul, sy tak wat ape2 lagi kecuali membeli kain di BDO utk wat baju! dats all! ade gak lah gi booking mak andam.. tu je lah kot! yg lain hal2 mkn ke ape ke kt kampung tuh, my big bro and my mum akan uruskan! i???

-survey kad? BELUM
-tempah baju? BELUM
-Pilih pengapit, pengiris dan MC? BELUM (tp dah ade calon!)
-Photography? DAH & BELUM (kompius nak pilih, xtau hasil nanti)
-DJ? BELUM
-Kumpul nama tetamu? BELUM
-Cincin/rantai/gelang ke? BELUM
-Survey kek? BELUM
-beli hantaran or deco hantara? BELUM
-SPA/Body Tx/Face Tx? BELUM (wat sendiri2)
-Program melangsingkan badan? SEDANG BERUSAHA!
-Mengaturkan tpt tinggal bg saudara and good frens? BELUM
-APE YG DAH DIBUAT? BELI KAIN, TMPH MAK ANDAM, TKG MASAK

p/s: ade kwn2 mau tolong?

Bridal Shoes

This ariticles is copied from: FreeBeautyTips

The dress is chosen, the flowers are ordered and your wedding day is only a few weeks away! It’s time to start thinking about last minute details, including your wedding shoes. While many brides choose their shoes in haste, at the last minute, the choice of what wedding shoes to wear is quite important. After all, no bride wants to spend her honeymoon barely able to walk due to blisters on her heels!

-Comfortable Wedding Shoe Ideas-

Today’s brides are more and more focused on making their wedding day the most comfortable it can be. Instead of choosing heavy dresses and three inch heels, they are going for more modest gowns and laid-back footwear. Whether the wedding is on the beach or in a church, brides are seeking out casual footwear for their big day. Since many wedding dresses don’t allow the public to view the bride’s shoes in any case, many brides are choosing to wear simple ballet slippers, sandals and even rhinestone flip flops under their dress. Those who sincerely do plan a beach wedding are even choosing to forgo shoes and are walking down the aisle barefoot.

-How To Choose A Great Bridal Shoe: Tips-

If you can afford to do so, buying a designer shoe for your wedding is a great way to show style and get comfort. Well known designers not only produce beautiful shoes, but they also make them incredibly comfortable and durable. However, if you’re on a budget discount shoes can get the job done just the same. The most important thing to consider when choosing your wedding shoe is your dress. It’s vital you take your dress with you when trying on shoes, or vice versa. Often women flock to flats because they want to be comfortable. However, most wedding dresses are made for women of average heights. So, if a petite woman wears flats with a typical dress, the dress will be too long and need addition (and often expensive) altering.

-Unique Wedding Shoe Choices For Bridesmaids-

You may have heard of this company when you were searching for prom shoes, but Coloriffics is still around and ready to help you match your bridesmaid shoes with their dresses. If you are interested in dyeable pumps for your attendants, these custom choices can help you cut your planning time down by hours.

-Traditional Colors Always Work-

Sure, today’s brides are choosing various colors in dresses and shoes. However, the most popular colors for wedding shoes remain white and ivory. Brides-to-be can find strappy shoes, traditional pumps and even glammed-up tennis shoes in most modern bridal stores. Whether a bride wants shoes with beads or satin slippers, there is something for everyone.