Responsibility

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Relationship with in-laws

Original article from yahoo shine!

Good Relationship with In-laws Improves Marriage for Men, Increases Chance of Divorce for Women

The holiday season is rife with opportunity for family disputes and blow-ups. (As Beverly D'Angelo says in National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation, "It's Christmas. We're all miserable.") Now, a new study may help your understand how best to handle your relationship with your in-laws.

The marriages of men who are closer to their in-laws are 20 percent less likely to end in divorce, according to a study conducted by Dr. Terri Orbuch, a psychologist and research professor at the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. The story of her findings in regards to in-laws recently appeared in The Wall Street Journal.

Over a period of 26 years, Dr. Orbuch studied the habits of 373 couples between the ages of 25 to 37 for a longitudinal study on marriage and divorce funded by the National Institute of Health. As part of the study Dr. Orbuch asked the couples to rate how close they felt to their in-laws. The article that discusses the findings of the study has been accepted for publication by the Journal of Family Relations.

Women, on the other hand, are easily offended by in-laws interferenceWhereas a man's closer relationship with his in-laws helps the marriage to survive, a woman's closeness to her in-laws has a negative effect: 20 percent more likely to end in divorce. Dr. Orbuch theorizes this is due to the fact that a close relationship between the in-laws and the wife may include a large amount of meddling.

"In-law ties are especially stressful for women. And, when they are close to in-laws, especially early in marriage, this may interfere with and prevent the formation of a strong bond with their husband. It is important for newlyweds to establish clear emotional boundaries," Dr. Orbuch told Yahoo! Shine. "Relationships are more central and important to women in general. We analyze them and want to constantly work and improve them. We take what our in-laws say as personal, we interpret it as interference and meddling and we can't set the boundaries."

If you've had frustrating arguments with your spouse about his parents, but he gets along better with your parents, there is a reason for this, according to Dr. Orbuch. "[Men's] identity as as a father and a husband is often secondary to their identity as a provider. As a result, they don't take what their in-laws do or say so personally. "

Women, on the other hand, interpret their husband's closeness with their parents as an extension of love for them.

In other words: women, keep doing what you're doing. Men: be nice to your in-laws.

33 seconds Persie

Glory Glory MU!

3 years

Alhamdulillah... 

28/11/09 - till death do us apart
Amin

USS Family Trip

actually, this trip happened last Raya Hols... so long already.. don't really have time to share the pics, so i just put some pics 1st.. 

In front of the USS-the famous globe

2 sweet couple :)

my cutest niece

US & marinabay

the best ice cream wafer!

The fun trip

Nov 13 - Nov 17, 2012

Arrival

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Cricket + Cockroach + Grasshopper

Ya Allah, please help them

Amin.. amin..

image source: Kosmo!

Anti McD

What is wrong with McDonalds?

• McDonald's promote their food as 'nutritious', but the reality is that it is junk food - high in fat, sugar and salt, and low in fibre and vitamins. A diet of this type is linked with a greater risk of heart disease, cancer, diabetes and other diseases. Their food also contains many chemical additives, some of which may cause ill-health, and hyperactivity in children. Don't forget too that meat is the cause of the majority of food poisoning incidents.

• Workers in the fast food industry are paid low wages. McDonald's do not pay overtime rates even when employees work very long hours. Pressure to keep profits high and wage costs low results in understaffing, so staff have to work harder and faster. As a consequence, accidents (particularly burns) are common. The majority of employees are people who have few job options and so are forced to accept this exploitation, and they're compelled to 'smile' too! Not surprisingly staff turnover at McDonald's is high, making it virtually impossible to unionise and fight for a better deal, which suits McDonald's who have always been opposed to Unions.

• Vast areas of land in poor countries are used for cash crops or for cattle ranching, or to grow grain to feed animals to be eaten in the West. This is at the expense of local food needs. McDonald's continually promote meat products, encouraging people to eat meat more often, which wastes more and more food resources. 7 million tons of grain fed to livestock produces only 1 million tons of meat and by-products. On a plant-based diet and with land shared fairly, almost every region could be self-sufficient in food.

• Forests throughout the world - vital for all life - are being destroyed at an appalling rate by multinational companies. McDonald's have at last been forced to admit to using beef reared on ex-rainforest land, preventing its regeneration. Also, the use of farmland by multinationals and their suppliers forces local people to move on to other areas and cut down further trees.

• McDonald's are the world's largest user of beef. Methane emitted by cattle reared for the beef industry is a major contributor to the 'global warming' crisis. Modern intensive agriculture is based on the heavy use of chemicals which are damaging to the environment.

• Every year McDonald's use thousands of tons of unnecessary packaging, most of which ends up littering our streets or polluting the land buried in landfill sites.

• Children are lured in (dragging their parents behind them) with the promise of toys and other gimmicks.

• Instead of everyone sharing the world's resources for the benefit of all, multinationals like McDonald's just want to use these resources to make profits for themselves.

• There Representative is a clown

• Thanks to Globalization McDonalds has thousands upon thousands of establishment’s worldwide. 6 out of the 7 continents have McDonalds, I am sure if Antarctica was not covered in ice that they would have one there too.

• They use a lot of packaging that is cooled down using chlorofluorocarbons (CFCs), which can actually damage the Ozone layer .

• Any establishment (like all fast-"food" establishments) owned by a group of people, whether they are shareholders or whether it is privately owned by individuals, if they are not local but are going into an area that is not their home and extracting money from the locals while at the same time taking business away from local establishments to concentrate this money into their own hands elsewhere, is evil.

• Everything you see in a print ad is fairly accurate-provided you ignore the 20 odd hours spent in retouching every major print ad campaign they make. Removing brown lettuce, discoloured saauce, burnt meat AND
  
• The biggest shareholders are JEWS!
  
  Source: antimcdonals

I will love you forever and ever and ever

You were born on Feb 6th, 2010...

You are my only sunshine since u r still a lil cute kitten

You are the most smart kitten i eva have

You grew up too fast..

The one that alwaz listen to me when im down

A notty lovely lil creature

Your eyes melt me whenever i look into them

  

You were afraid to see a Vet

 

You fat creature

 

Always make me smile

You were so lovable and hug-gable

You showed me what is  love

You shine every single day

You made me love you so much

Sometimes you are so arrognt

But you knew how to steal my heart over and over again

You were so cute that i dont wanna loose you forever

Always be on ma side.. sad & happy

You'll always have my heart..

And my soul..

And my heartiest and warmest love..

The adorable lil monster..

And that day came too fast, I cried when you got sick..

You were so sick and suffered..

I still and will always remember the last touch i gave you

The most beautiful creature in this whole world

It was hard for me to decide.. so so hard.. but looking at you worst condition..

I had to let you go to heaven..

Till death i will always love you.. till death you are my beloved cat.. Be happy there in heaven love, i will never ever forget you... You will always be apart of my life..

Rest In Peace.. Allah loves you more than i do, InshaAllah, i will see you again in Heaven dear..

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Garfield Catty Shae

February 6th, 2010 - November 7th, 2012 

Task

Took over

so it is confirmed, Aeon Co Ltd will take over..............

 

will take over Carrefour Malaysia from now on....

I'm a royal Carrefour customer because of the price is slightly cheaper compare to Giant & Tesco.. But after this, will I enjoy d same great price? I dont think so because Aeon will re-branding Carrefour to a new supermarket called Aeon Big! So, i can imagine the price will be the same as the Jusco Supermarket which is more expensive than Giant/Tesco! But i do hope Aeon will remain Carrefour great deals! 

It is official now and i can say goodbye to Carrefour sooner or later.. You have been a great supermarket to me!

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